Dinner Survival

Savoring time together

Whew…after we finished dinner the other night I was even more worn out that I was before we began.  I LOVE the idea of sitting around the table at night together to enjoy one slow meal.  Our only slow meal of the day.  We get a chance to talk about our roses and thorns (our highs and lows) of the day.  It gives me a great insight into the lives of my children that I don’t get to see.  This ideal meal (conversation, good food, laughter) is at least what I expect.

What really happens is this…pleaseeee eat your green bean.  When asked how many at the beginning of the meal I decide on number 5.  Eat 5 green beans.  By the end of the meal I am begging…just eat one…just one.  Just eat one green bean for my sake.  Only because I know the pediatrician will ask me that one question at your annual visit.  “Does she eat a balanced meal?” I always say yes…but it is a stretch.

And then both my children began using my own lines on me…”I love you to much to argue”….then they would laugh…

I once heard Kevin Leman  encourage parents to talk with their children at the dinner table the same way they would talk with diner guests.  For instance, I would not demand that my dinner guests eat their green beans before they left the table.  So why do I talk with my children that way????

Thankfully I will be invited back to our dinner table tonight.  Maybe I just need to focus on my own green beans and not worry about controlling everyone else’s. I’m learning that a Happy Tent usually includes a happy mom…not one who brings stress and control to the table.  There is enough of that in this world.

I pray my table will reflect more love, acceptance and peace.I want to enjoy these years because I know in a few short years, some of my dinner guests will not be at my table on a regular basis.

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