Summer provides many opportunities for going deep. There is the deep end of the swimming pool that is inviting. You can enjoy a night out in Deep Ellum and have dinner at Deep Sushi. Deep in the heart of Texas the other night, we went back in time and watched a movie at the Drive-In with the tailgate down and our hands deep in popcorn.
Summer provides more opportunities for going deep in relationships. The days are longer and schedules are lighter. More than once our youngest has reminded us that there is no bedtime in the summer. I guess that is why we are all still awake at eleven o’clock! There is more time to talk and listen. There is more time for board games. There is more time for hugs. There is more time for exploring new places or projects. There is more time to simply be together, deeply.
There is a childhood song I learned in Sunday School years ago called, Deep and Wide. Part of the lyrics say, “Deep and wide/ Deep and wide/ There is a fountain flowing deep and wide.” This song reminds me of God’s love. God’s love for us is deep and wide. Our love for our families is deep and wide. Summer is a great time to experience both.
Before these summer months slip by, take off your life jackets in life and do some spontaneous deep diving into the lives of the people who share your tent.
Ideas for Going Deep
- Ask “I Wonder….” Questions: These are open-ended questions that you do not know the answer to before you ask it. They are beautiful questions for learning how someone sees the world around them. “I wonder who your favorite author is….” “I wonder where God showed up in your week…” “I wonder what our marriage will be like when we…”
- Spontaneous Ice Cream: One of our ninety year old friends reminds us that having a little ice cream at Braum’s at the end of the day is fun. Do something spontaneous… anything really…that is what is fun about summer.
- Family Projects: You’ve got time to go deeper into a project this summer. Drive to the nearest craft store or hardware store. Find something to sew, crochet, build, cook, paint, organize, or create. Being elbow to elbow with another person you love (who God created) will give you time to see them through different eyes. You are guaranteed to learn something about each other.
When he finished speaking to the crowds, he said to Simon, “Row out farther, into the deep water, and drop your nets for a catch.” Luke 5:4
From our Deeply Happy Tent to yours,
I visited a beautiful campus library this week. There are still a lot of books in a library. BUT I discovered there are even more at my finger tips. Databases after databases are available by typing a single word. They are all connected and they are all amazing. Amazing because they answer questions. All of them!
God loves a beautiful mind. Proverbs 2:2 says, “Turn your ear toward wisdom, and stretch your mind toward understanding.” Our minds are a gift, a beautiful gift. When we use them for understanding we are using a gift from God.
What is a question that you have been thinking about lately? What have you been curious about? What have you wondered about lately? What has been keeping you up at night? We always encourage children to ask questions. Maybe children should encourage adults to ask questions, too. Of course, as adults, we no longer need to ask simple questions like “What makes lightening?” or ‘Why are there no more dinosaurs?” We know these answers. (Or at least we can quickly google them!) Adults are called to go deeper with their questions. Adults are called to ask bigger questions and commit to finding the answers.
This is a calling from God. A calling to use our beautiful minds. Questions like “Who is my neighbor?” or “What can I do to being healing to this situation?” or “What is behind this feeling I have about images I see?” When we engage the world (issues, images, headlines, events) around us with our minds, we discover more questions behind the first one. With each question and answer pair, we take a step closer to understanding. And we take a step closer to creating change or awareness so others can understand as well.
Raise your hand and ask your question!
From our curious and Happy Tent to yours,
P.P.S. This week’s book suggestion is The Encyclopedia of Student and Youth Movements. All of these movements started with questions. This book is full of stories about youth around the world that created change with their beautiful minds. This one is sure to spice up your family dinner conversations! (Not all topics in the book are appropriate for younger minds…at least not until they get older.)
When was the last time you had a hallelujah moment. These moments create a sudden pause and they feel like a surprise, a gift and a celebration all in one. They are simple moments. Moments when you arrive safely at home or maybe it is when you finally finish a project. They are big moments. Moments when you catch a glimpse of eternal life.
Andy Grammer sings a song called “Good To Be Alive.” My favorite line is, “I think I finally found my hallelujah!” That is how it usually feels when you find it. It seems elusive until suddenly you find yourself saying HALLELUJAH! (It also means Praise the Lord in Hebrew.)
In a moment of total frustration this week, I heard Grammer’s song and decided I was going on a Hallelujah Hunt. It sounded more fun than being frustrated. Here is what I found.
- HALLELUJAH–I finally cleaned out a bedroom (by pulling everything out of it first) and successfully brought order to the chaos. Unused toys were donated, selves were organized and we waved good-by to a Barbie house as it moved to a 3-year-olds house!
- HALLELUJAH—I saw a prayer ANSWERED! I had prayed for it, through it, around it and it was answered. It was amazing, exciting and amazing.
- HALLELUJAH—I experienced a FULL nights sleep. (Sometimes it’s the simple things.)
- HALLELUJAH—A child was healed by the miracle of modern medicine and came home!
- HALLELUJAH—A dear friend who I invited to join a church thirteen years ago was ordained as a pastor this week.
Let’s just say that my hunt has been successful. Very successful! Hallelujah! And my total frustration seems so silly compared to everything else.
There are many reasons to praise the Lord during our weeks. Jesus is active and present in small ways and big ones. The Holy Spirit is always guiding and directing. God continues to co-create this world along side us. Though we cannot fully see all of these moments, we experience them.
Take some time to pause and reflect on your week. What were your hallelujah moments? Then prepare for a hallelujah hunt for next week. Invite your family to join you on the hunt. Keep your eyes open and position yourself in the place of most potential…in the presence of God.
O my soul, praise God!
All my life long I’ll praise God,
singing songs to my God as long as I live.
From Our Happy Tent to Yours,
P.S. This weeks summer reading suggestion is Gift from the Sea by Anne Morrow Lindbergh. It has been on book shelves for over fifty years. Once you read it you will know why. It’s full of insight and beautiful images about life. Enjoy!
The great writer of Ecclesiastes wrote, “There is a season for everything, a time for every matter under the sun.” We have declared this summer to be a time to UNLEARN. (No need to panic teachers, we promise not to unlearn all the great skills you taught over the year.)
We had an honest conversation in our tent at the end of the week. Six days after school and activities ended, we decided we were bored! All the girls in our tent agreed. Only one of us was brave enough to say it out loud. (It is hard to admit how you feel when it is not what you expected.) We expected to be joyful and feel free to live our lives without a schedule, but instead we were bored, frustrated and confused.
The youngest one said she was just ready to go back to school. She said, “One week is enough of a break!” The older one said, “I have no cause!” After I stopped laughing. I reminded them that we had a LONG summer ahead of us. Then there was a period of silence.
Maybe our first week of summer is telling us something important…it’s time to UNLEARN some things. First one is to UNLEARN that we need to be entertained to feel satisfied! Then we can move on and UNLEARN what is means to be productive, rested, and stress free.
Ellen G. White wrote, “We have many lessons to learn, and many, many to unlearn. God and heaven alone are infallible. Those who think that they will never have to give up a cherished view…will be disappointed.”
There are many experiences that we learn from in our lives. Most of them offer good lessons. Many we learned to survive a season of life. But some of them teach us skills or attitudes that we may need to UNLEARN. Feeling bored, frustrated or confused may be just what we need to recognize a time to UNLEARN something we thought we already knew. First we need to admit how we feel and then we will be open to learning a new way, idea or process. It may take a little creativity and humility.
What do you possibly need to UNLEARN this summer?
From our Happy Tent to Yours,
In Max Lucado’s book, You are Special, he reminds us how God sees each of us. God sees us as special. The world doesn’t. This is something we can UNLEARN over the summer as well. Happy reading!
There are many ways to experience the summer. We can experience a vacation, learn how to ride a bike, go swimming (everyday), go fishing, have a picnic, or build a fort at home.
One of our favorite ways to experience summer is through books. Reading, because you can and not because you have to, is a freeing experience. Several years ago while we were camping in Estes Park, Colorado, we read The Chronicles of Narnia by C.S. Lewis together as a family. Inside our tent, inside our sleeping bags, we opened the first page and read…
This is a story about something that happened long ago when your grandfather was a child. It is a very important story because it shows how all the comings and goings between our own world and the land of Narnia first began.
Every time I hear someone talk about the book, I immediately go back to our tent in my mind in the beautiful mountains and remember that night together when we started reading. Memories are attached to summer books.
This month, we will share some summer reading suggestions for your family. We hope you will discover these books for yourself. Maybe you can read them together as a family or you can read them in your favorite comfy chair on a hot summer day.
Kick off the summer with this inspiring book, The Circle Maker. When you open the cover of this book, you will quickly discover the power of prayer in a new way. Mark Batterson writes from pure experience. He has witnessed God working through prayer in big and small ways. Based on the legend of Honi the Circle Maker who ended a great drought through prayer, Batterson invites all of us to circle our prayers. In the pages of the book, he shares how to circle prayers and encourages readers to pray through our prayers until God answers.
This book will encourage you and your family to pray and show you ways God answers prayers everyday in everyday lives…just like yours and mine.
From our Happy It’s Summer Tent to yours,
Social media lately is flooded with firsts and lasts. There are first communions, first dances, first cars, first steps, first solid foods. There are last recitals, last awards ceremony, last graduations, last day of school, last day to pack school lunches (Can I get an Amen?). It would be difficult not to notice all the smiling faces in the pictures or the energy in our communities. There have even been some first birthdays as new babies bounce into the world and last hugs and kisses as love ones spend their last days on earth.
Joseph Campbell once wrote, “We must let go of the life we have planned, so as to accept the one that is waiting for us.” Whether you are experiencing a first or a last this month, you are probably leaving one life and headed into a new one. You are leaving one normal and creating a new one. And if you are not experiencing this yourself, simply take a look to your left and your right, you will see someone who is. As we change from one life into the next, here are some ways to help you transition, recenter, stop, or become more aware of God’s presence:
- Sit in your God space and listen. Remember that the creator of the universe (your creator) is available. Any time. Any place. If you have a God space in your house or office…sit in it. Focus on one thing that never changes…God’s love for you!
- Make a lunch date with a friend. Spiritual friends are the best! They listen, understand, advise, support and follow up. They often know what you need before you know what you need. A lunch date will provide you with a pause between all the things you have to get done before you go to bed. Everyone can use a pause now and then.
- Plan a selfie day with just you and things you love. Watch a movie at 10am with popcorn and a coke. See two movies if you have time. Pull out your music collection and jam to you favorites. Take a nap in the middle of the day without you cell phone in the same room. Read a book just because. What brings your joy? Do it!
- Name your emotion(s). Mad, sad, angry, fearful or tender. All emotions fall under one of these top five. Once you know your emotion, you are more able to experience it and control it before it controls you. Pretending that you are not deeply experiencing one of these emotions is like pretending that nothing is changing. Pretending is exhausting.
- Plan a trip. It always helps to experience a change of scenery whether it is a day trip or a vacation. Just having one on the calendar is life giving! Shop in a new store. Visit museums in your community or close by. Reconnect with a family member or old friend and drive to their town to simply spend time together. Exploring nature in small parks or big parks like the Grand Canyon can certainly be fun! And there is always camping!!
- Take a deep breath. Sometimes when I am with my mom and I take a deep breath, she says, “Is that your first breath of the day?” Sometimes you just need to take a breath and a step, a breath and a step. Find a pace that allows your soul to catch up with your body!
- Hug your family. A one-minute hug always does the trick. (Set a timer.) One-minute to connect. One-minute to freeze time and capture the moment. One-minute of peace in the midst of chaos. Your family is experiencing many firsts and lasts together. Hugs, notes, texts, and hand-holding are all encouraged in the middle of transitions.
While you (or someone you know) is experiencing firsts and lasts this month, remember one thing. Jesus is the “author and finisher” of our faith (Hebrews 12:2). “Through him all things were made; without him nothing was made that has been made” (John 1:3). Jesus is the Alpha and Omega, the first and the last. When we see all of life through Christ eyes, we see the whole picture. There are many firsts and lasts that we experience, but in the middle we experience a full, abundant life. That is why Jesus came to this earth and why we have faith in Christ.
Keep posting those precious pictures of your abundant life, the highs and the lows. Each day and each experience serves as a reminder that we are all in this together within the loving arms of Jesus. And Jesus is ready to give us more of an abundant life!
From our Happy Tent to Yours,
The next generation has discovered Family Feud. Do you remember that show? I remember watching it with my family when I was a child. Last weekend my daughter discovered it while visiting a family member and my daughter who had a REAL TV. (We have been cable free FOREVER, so when we visit our family members our daughters always refer to TV at the REAL TV!). The REAL TV was full of interesting shows last weekend and Family Feud was the most interesting.
I was busy doing something else while she was watching it until I saw the first red X flash up on the screen. Then I was totally engaged. I remembered that there were three red X’s available to each family. After those three, they lost. Three chances to guess the best words for the category. This particular category was “Tell me ways in which the family dog can annoy you.” I won’t give you the answers here.
But those three X’s have been helpful in our tent all week. One morning while getting ready for our day, my sweet, adorable husband made an unnecessary comment about something I forgot to do (I never, ever claim to be perfect!). I quickly threw up my hands and formed an X. I informed him that he only had two more before the day was over…and it was only the morning. I then had to remind him about Family Feud and the three X’s. He caught on quickly. It wasn’t long before he threw up his arms into a big X and reminded me that we were now tied.
I know we all try our best to treat everyone in our tent with kindness, love and respect. That is our goal. But some days when we are tired, stressed or overwhelmed, we tend to do more harm than good. We say words that deserve a big red X. We complain about small things that do not matter in the big picture. We travel down the road of negativity not realizing that we are traveling it alone because everyone else is exhausted from listening. That too deserves a red X.
“Pleasant words are like a honeycomb, sweetness to the soul and health to the body” (Proverbs 16:24). Our words have power to make our relationships sweeter. We know the right words to use to build each other up. We know how to avoid those words that cause the big red X’s to flash up on our screen of life.
Here’s a challenge for your family this week. See how many ways you can bring sweetness to your tent through your words. See how you can bring health into your relationships. See if your choice of words helps you to avoid family feuds within your home. And remember, GRACE. As much as we try, we will always make mistakes and say something that deserves a big red X. Our families are the best place to practice giving and receiving grace. Grace and forgiveness remove any X’s that exist in our relationships. Before you begin the challenge, take a moment to exchanged grace and give forgiveness to erase the X’s that have already been played. That way everyone starts with a fresh beginning.
Love your family, don’t feud. – Al Roker (2008)
From our Happy Tent to yours,
P.S. Grab your neighbors this Memorial weekend and play Family Feud. Here are some questions to get you started.
Almost nine years ago I became a mother again. After rushing to the hospital, checking and settling in, I remember a text from my spiritual director. She said, “Never again will you share the same heart beat or be completely spiritually connected with your daughter as you are now.” Time stopped when I read those words and all the activity in the hospital room stopped. I turned my attention to what was happening on the inside instead of the activity on the outside.
A baby changes everything, right? And everyone! Our baby girl took center stage in our lives. Bottles, diapers, toys, little pink socks, more toys, car seats, dresses, strollers, and more toys all moved in with her. She still changes everything. Except today life is filled with school, gymnastics, toys, friends, sleep-overs, piano recitals, dance recitals, more toys and theater. (Over scheduled…I know!)
In the midst of all this (especially in the ridiculously-overly-busy month of May), I can’t help but remember that text. It still helps me to turn my attention to what is happening on the inside, instead of the activity on the outside. I may no longer share a heartbeat with my baby, but I know her heart well. We are like old friends that have moved away from each other. When we meet again, we simply pick up where we left off. Because I know her well, it is my job to be in-tune with what is happening on the inside in the midst of the activity on the outside. It is my job to make room for life giving moments, both personally and spiritually.
I know this, because this is how I experience God. In my life that is often ridiculously-overly-busy, I depend on God to show me what is going on inside, instead of the activity outside both in myself and others. I depend on God to give me peace in chaos, hope in darkness and love. Because God shares a heart with me (and you), God shows up and gives me spiritual moments like a beautiful moon, the perfect verse from the Bible for the day, and of course encouraging words from my own mom.
Remember the story in Mark 10, when people were bringing children to Jesus so that he would bless them?The disciples scolded the children and Jesus scolded the disciples. He even grew angry and said, “Allow the children to come to me. Don’t forbid them, because God’s kingdom belongs to people like these children. I assure you that whoever doesn’t welcome God’s kingdom like a child will never enter it.” Then he hugged the children and blessed them.
We are called to do the same. We are called to create ways for children (of all ages) to have access to Jesus on the inside in the midst of the activity on the outside. Once a connection is made with Jesus, never again will we want to stand in its way.
From our Happy Tents to yours,
You never know when you will hear something that makes your heart smile. I was sitting in an emergency room with a college student and visiting with the doctor. The three of us were enjoying a conversation and then the doctor smiled and said, “Follow your energy…right?” My heart skipped a beat and I know it would have registered on an EKG machine if I was the patient. My heart simply smiled…following your energy just makes sense.
Think about children for a minute, they simply follow their energy. I clearly remember one Easter season when my toddler demanded that I buy some Easter candy as we were checking out of the store. She won. I lost. As I was unpacking the groceries at home, she strolled into the kitchen with her Halloween basket full of Easter candy. (She still makes my heart smile.) Before I knew it, we were going door to door and giving our neighbors chocolate Easter bunnies and saying happy Easter. They were as surprised as I was when they opened their front doors. She followed her energy. All our hearts smiled.
Think about young adults (and I guess all adults for that matter) for a minute. They seem to have more questions than answers about what major to declare, what job to pursue, who to date or what choice to make. I clearly remember surprising my friend (who became my husband) with a cup of coffee at work one night when we were in college. Our conversation began with a recap of our day and we shared the highlights with each other. By the time our rather short visit ended, we had decided to get married! Our hearts smiled! Follow your energy!
Think about Jesus for a minute. Remember the story of the brave woman who simply reached out and touched Jesus’ robe as he passed by and she was healed? She followed her energy and it led her to Jesus. At that very moment, Jesus recognized that power had gone out from him. Their energy collided and a miracle happened. Follow your energy…a miracle might be waiting!
When we are honest with ourselves, we can identify that “thing” that gives us energy in life. That project. That person. That dream. That idea. That place. Maybe it is time to simply follow your energy to where it leads you. It may not make perfect sense right now, but you know you are on the right path when your heart smiles.
Now we see a reflection in a mirror; then we will see face-to-face. Now I know partially, but then I will know completely in the same way that I have been completely known. 1 Corinthians 13:12
From our Happy Tent to yours,
The day started like every other school day. Alarm went off waaaay too early (I couldn’t stop reading a new book deep into the night). Mr. Bell headed to the kitchen to make breakfast. I hit the snooze button too many times. Finally we all rolled out of bed and into the day.
After a few trips to the laundry room, the school children had one shirt, one skirt, two socks and two shoes on their bodies. Success! The clock was ticking. The coffee was hot. Breakfast was served and then we heard the frightful words, “My stomach really hurts.” This was supported by another voice that said, “Mine does too.” Everybody freeze!
I will spare you the details that followed. In one moment the day stopped and changed directions. At times we were running in different directions. The Bell Tent turned into the Bell Infirmary. If you drove down our street, you could probably see the red cross on the front door. As our school children were put in quarantine, the parents transformed into RN’s. Appointments were canceled, school was notified and the school children were tucked back in bed.
Sometimes in life, our normal disappears suddenly. We don’t see the change coming. We don’t even anticipate it. But it shows up anyways. When this happens, plans go out the window, adjustments are made and frustration decreases as reality increases. Reality can be a difficult pill to swallow. There is no way around reality. It is what it is.
But then something happens. We begin to feel a sense of freedom. The routine disappears. We become more aware of our surroundings. Time becomes a companion instead of an enemy. Windows of opportunity appear. Suddenly we get to BE with those we love in a new way. We get to SERVE those we love because we are available. We get to LOVE those we live with because they need us. And in the midst of illness, we experience life.
Jesus’ mission is to make our normal disappear. Whether we are young or old when he comes into our life, we don’t see the change coming. We don’t anticipate it. But it shows up anyways. Suddenly our lives are filled with opportunities to BE with Jesus and learn his ways through the Bible and conversations with others. We find ways to SERVE others that we had never even noticed before. And we learn what it is like to truly LOVE.
Our day started like every other school day, but it ended with a big lesson. Sometimes we are called to be Jesus for others because Jesus is there for us. Sometimes we are called to be Jesus for those who live in our own tent.
Above all, maintain constant love for one another, for love covers a multitude of sins. Be hospitable to one another without complaining. Like good stewards of the manifold grace of God, serve one another with whatever gift each of you has received.
How did Jesus change your normal life into something new? Who are you called to serve and love this week?
From our Tent to Yours,